Wired to Connect

The Surprising Link Between Brain Science and Strong, Healthy Relationships

Foreword by Daniel Siegel
Research shows that people cannot reach their full potential unless they are in healthy connection with others. Dr. Amy Banks teaches us how to rewire our brains for healthier relationships and happier, more fulfilling lives.

We all experience moments when we feel isolated and alone. A 2006 Purdue University study found that twenty-five percent of Americans cannot name a single person they feel close to. Yet every single one of us is hardwired for close relationships. The key to more satisfying relationships—be it with a significant other, a family member, or a colleague—is to strengthen the neural pathways in our brains that encourage closeness and connection. In this groundbreaking book, Dr. Banks give us a road map for developing the four distinct neural pathways in the brain that underlie the four most important ingredients for close relationships: calmness, acceptance, emotional resonance, and energy. Wired to Connect gives you the tools you need to strengthen the parts of your brain that encourage connection and to heal the neural damage that disconnection can cause.
"I love this book! It is beautifully written, engaging, and inspiring. Want more happiness? Want to live longer? Want to be healthier in mind and body? Then learning these four ways to click in to more meaningful and rewarding relationships is your passport to achieving these goals. Let Amy Banks be your guide to a better life of love and laughter. Enjoy!"
—Dr. Daniel Siegel, author of the New York Times bestseller Brainstorm

"The subtext of Four Ways to Click is that we are our relationships. In this amazingly accessible, profound book, you get an introduction to the new, science-based, radical concept that your brain is 'relational,' and you get a manual that shows you amazingly effective ways to use your relationships to optimize your brain's natural inclination to connect. This book will help all joyful people understand the source of their joy, and all unhappy people understand how they can become joyful. This book should be used by every clinician and read by everyone."
—Harville Hendrix, Ph.D, and Helen LaKelly Hunt, PhD, authors of Getting the Love You Want (Hendrix) and Making Marriage Simple

"Love is not enough. Amy Banks shows how the four essential ingredients for a successful relationship are based in the perplexing architecture of your brain. By understanding what is happening within you, you can vastly improve what is happening between you. This well-written, reader-friendly book can show you how!
David Feinstein, PhD, co-author of The Energies of Love
Leigh Ann Hirschman has cowritten and edited numerous books, including The Chronic Pain Solution by James N. Dillard. View titles by Leigh Ann Hirschman

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Research shows that people cannot reach their full potential unless they are in healthy connection with others. Dr. Amy Banks teaches us how to rewire our brains for healthier relationships and happier, more fulfilling lives.

We all experience moments when we feel isolated and alone. A 2006 Purdue University study found that twenty-five percent of Americans cannot name a single person they feel close to. Yet every single one of us is hardwired for close relationships. The key to more satisfying relationships—be it with a significant other, a family member, or a colleague—is to strengthen the neural pathways in our brains that encourage closeness and connection. In this groundbreaking book, Dr. Banks give us a road map for developing the four distinct neural pathways in the brain that underlie the four most important ingredients for close relationships: calmness, acceptance, emotional resonance, and energy. Wired to Connect gives you the tools you need to strengthen the parts of your brain that encourage connection and to heal the neural damage that disconnection can cause.

Reviews

"I love this book! It is beautifully written, engaging, and inspiring. Want more happiness? Want to live longer? Want to be healthier in mind and body? Then learning these four ways to click in to more meaningful and rewarding relationships is your passport to achieving these goals. Let Amy Banks be your guide to a better life of love and laughter. Enjoy!"
—Dr. Daniel Siegel, author of the New York Times bestseller Brainstorm

"The subtext of Four Ways to Click is that we are our relationships. In this amazingly accessible, profound book, you get an introduction to the new, science-based, radical concept that your brain is 'relational,' and you get a manual that shows you amazingly effective ways to use your relationships to optimize your brain's natural inclination to connect. This book will help all joyful people understand the source of their joy, and all unhappy people understand how they can become joyful. This book should be used by every clinician and read by everyone."
—Harville Hendrix, Ph.D, and Helen LaKelly Hunt, PhD, authors of Getting the Love You Want (Hendrix) and Making Marriage Simple

"Love is not enough. Amy Banks shows how the four essential ingredients for a successful relationship are based in the perplexing architecture of your brain. By understanding what is happening within you, you can vastly improve what is happening between you. This well-written, reader-friendly book can show you how!
David Feinstein, PhD, co-author of The Energies of Love

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Leigh Ann Hirschman has cowritten and edited numerous books, including The Chronic Pain Solution by James N. Dillard. View titles by Leigh Ann Hirschman