The Success Trap

How the Pressure to Stand Out Is Fueling Anxiety, Depression, and Burnout in Teens--and the Fundamental Fix They Deserve

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It’s not just the phones. This crucial new investigation into the teen mental health epidemic reveals how rising expectations in school, extracurriculars, and daily life have driven unprecedented levels of anxiety and depression—and shows what you can do about it.

“A call to action for every parent, educator, and policymaker . . . Let it change the way we support our youth on the challenging journey of staying grounded, connected, and inspired.”—Daniel J. Siegel, New York Times bestselling author of Brainstorm, Mind, and Mindsight

Pediatrician, researcher, and former Associate Dean for Curriculum at the Saint Louis University School of Medicine, Dr. Stuart Slavin draws on his experiences working to reverse burnout and anxiety among high-achieving students to argue that the problem isn’t just technology—it’s also the system that demands constant performance. In The Success Trap, he demonstrates how the culture of achievement has become a key contributor to the teen mental health crisis, and how it can be reimagined for better outcomes and greater well-being.

From school and sports to college admissions and parental and societal expectations, young people are navigating an environment where success is demanded at every turn—often at the cost of their well-being. During his tenure as Dean of Curriculum at the Saint Louis University School of Medicine, Dr. Slavin led a program that resulted in an 80% decrease in rates of depression and anxiety among his medical students—all while improving academic outcomes.

Based on his successes, parents will learn to:
  • Teach resilience
  • Reduce demands and pressure
  • And provide kids with more control, more choice, and more opportunities to find meaning and joy

The Success Trap lays out this same three-pronged approach to improving teen mental health, especially during the critical high school years and beyond—without sacrificing performance or ambition. Drawing on years of clinical expertise and educational research, Dr. Slavin offers gentle, practical guidance for parents, educators, and students themselves to help break the cycle and redefine what true success looks like: not just achievement, but mentally resilient, healthy, and happy teens.
“In The Success Trap, Stuart Slavin . . . provides a practical, evidence-based way to break the cycle by building resilience and giving kids more control, choice, and purpose, without sacrificing ambition.”—Jennifer Breheny Wallace, New York Times bestselling author of Never Enough and Mattering

“I recommend the book to all parents, educators, and anyone else concerned with the mental wellbeing of young people, kindergarten through graduate or medical school.”—Peter Gray, expert in childhood learning and author of Free to Learn

“Read it, share it, and let it change the way we support our youth on the challenging journey of staying grounded, connected, and inspired in their lives.”—Daniel J. Siegel, New York Times bestselling author, Brainstorm, Mind and Mindsight

The Success Trap is a refreshing, necessary look at the reality of raising a child in today’s success-driven, pressure-cooker society. Realistic, compassionate, and highly actionable, this book has the answers you've been looking for.”—Julie Lythcott-Haims, New York Times bestselling author, How to Raise an Adult

“In The Success Trap, Dr. Stuart Slavin offers a nuanced, educated take on the false idols of toxic achievement and offers actionable, practical ways for both parents and kids to shift their thinking toward a more positive, healthy understanding of lifelong accomplishment and fulfillment.”—Jessica Lahey, New York Times bestselling author of The Gift of Failure and The Addiction Inoculation

“Stuart Slavin brings a powerful combination of clinical expertise and humane wisdom to bear on one of the deepest problems of our time. The Success Trap is a remarkable combination of social criticism and self-help—at once profound and useful.”—Daniel Markovits, author of The Meritocracy Trap

The Success Trap offers a blueprint—effective, economical, and actionable—for student success and well-being.”—Ned Johnson, Coauthor of The Self-Driven Child and host of The Self-Driven Child Podcast

“Dr. Slavin provides both a compelling account of the causes of distress among today’s youth and practical pathways for fostering their well-being. Backed by solid research, he illuminates the pressures of our achievement-focused culture and offers realistic, evidence-based solutions.”—William R. Stixrud, Coauthor of The Self-Driven Child and founder of The Stixrud Group

The Success Trap provides the case and a roadmap for helping kids to thrive and ultimately experience deeper success.”—Christine Moutier, CMO of the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention

The Success Trap is rigorous, urgent, and deeply practical, the road map every parent, educator, and school leader has been waiting for.”—Vicki Abeles, New York Times bestselling author of Beyond Measure

“This is an essential guide for parents and educators who want to create environments in which young people can truly learn, thrive, and find meaning.”—Richard M. Ryan, McKillop distinguished professor, Institute for Positive Psychology and Education, Australian Catholic University, co-developer of self-determination theory

“We’ve known for a long time that achievement pressure is harming our teens. The question is, what can we do about it? The Success Trap offers answers: a thorough, compassionate, step-by-step approach for parents to follow to help them understand what’s going on with their kids and how to help them through it.”—William Deresiewicz, New York Times bestselling author of Excellent Sheep
Stuart Slavin, MD, MEd, a nationally recognized well-being expert, has several lenses that inform his view of the current child and adolescent mental health crisis. A board-certified pediatrician, Dr. Slavin practiced general pediatrics for seventeen years at UCLA. As a researcher, Dr. Slavin has conducted studies involving the mental health of medical students, medical residents, medical education staff, and in recent years, high school and college students. Dr. Slavin’s interest in mental health and well-being began when, as curriculum dean at Saint Louis University School of Medicine, he spearheaded efforts to improve the mental health of medical students that led to 80% reductions in rates of depression and anxiety–all while increasing performance levels. Dr. Slavin is a frequent lecturer who speaks regularly at schools and regional, national, and international education meetings. Dr. Slavin has received numerous education, teaching, and clinical awards and recognition over the course of his career, including the Alpha Omega Alpha Robert J. Glaser Distinguished Teacher Award in 2013. View titles by Stuart Slavin, MD, MEd

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It’s not just the phones. This crucial new investigation into the teen mental health epidemic reveals how rising expectations in school, extracurriculars, and daily life have driven unprecedented levels of anxiety and depression—and shows what you can do about it.

“A call to action for every parent, educator, and policymaker . . . Let it change the way we support our youth on the challenging journey of staying grounded, connected, and inspired.”—Daniel J. Siegel, New York Times bestselling author of Brainstorm, Mind, and Mindsight

Pediatrician, researcher, and former Associate Dean for Curriculum at the Saint Louis University School of Medicine, Dr. Stuart Slavin draws on his experiences working to reverse burnout and anxiety among high-achieving students to argue that the problem isn’t just technology—it’s also the system that demands constant performance. In The Success Trap, he demonstrates how the culture of achievement has become a key contributor to the teen mental health crisis, and how it can be reimagined for better outcomes and greater well-being.

From school and sports to college admissions and parental and societal expectations, young people are navigating an environment where success is demanded at every turn—often at the cost of their well-being. During his tenure as Dean of Curriculum at the Saint Louis University School of Medicine, Dr. Slavin led a program that resulted in an 80% decrease in rates of depression and anxiety among his medical students—all while improving academic outcomes.

Based on his successes, parents will learn to:
  • Teach resilience
  • Reduce demands and pressure
  • And provide kids with more control, more choice, and more opportunities to find meaning and joy

The Success Trap lays out this same three-pronged approach to improving teen mental health, especially during the critical high school years and beyond—without sacrificing performance or ambition. Drawing on years of clinical expertise and educational research, Dr. Slavin offers gentle, practical guidance for parents, educators, and students themselves to help break the cycle and redefine what true success looks like: not just achievement, but mentally resilient, healthy, and happy teens.

Reviews

“In The Success Trap, Stuart Slavin . . . provides a practical, evidence-based way to break the cycle by building resilience and giving kids more control, choice, and purpose, without sacrificing ambition.”—Jennifer Breheny Wallace, New York Times bestselling author of Never Enough and Mattering

“I recommend the book to all parents, educators, and anyone else concerned with the mental wellbeing of young people, kindergarten through graduate or medical school.”—Peter Gray, expert in childhood learning and author of Free to Learn

“Read it, share it, and let it change the way we support our youth on the challenging journey of staying grounded, connected, and inspired in their lives.”—Daniel J. Siegel, New York Times bestselling author, Brainstorm, Mind and Mindsight

The Success Trap is a refreshing, necessary look at the reality of raising a child in today’s success-driven, pressure-cooker society. Realistic, compassionate, and highly actionable, this book has the answers you've been looking for.”—Julie Lythcott-Haims, New York Times bestselling author, How to Raise an Adult

“In The Success Trap, Dr. Stuart Slavin offers a nuanced, educated take on the false idols of toxic achievement and offers actionable, practical ways for both parents and kids to shift their thinking toward a more positive, healthy understanding of lifelong accomplishment and fulfillment.”—Jessica Lahey, New York Times bestselling author of The Gift of Failure and The Addiction Inoculation

“Stuart Slavin brings a powerful combination of clinical expertise and humane wisdom to bear on one of the deepest problems of our time. The Success Trap is a remarkable combination of social criticism and self-help—at once profound and useful.”—Daniel Markovits, author of The Meritocracy Trap

The Success Trap offers a blueprint—effective, economical, and actionable—for student success and well-being.”—Ned Johnson, Coauthor of The Self-Driven Child and host of The Self-Driven Child Podcast

“Dr. Slavin provides both a compelling account of the causes of distress among today’s youth and practical pathways for fostering their well-being. Backed by solid research, he illuminates the pressures of our achievement-focused culture and offers realistic, evidence-based solutions.”—William R. Stixrud, Coauthor of The Self-Driven Child and founder of The Stixrud Group

The Success Trap provides the case and a roadmap for helping kids to thrive and ultimately experience deeper success.”—Christine Moutier, CMO of the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention

The Success Trap is rigorous, urgent, and deeply practical, the road map every parent, educator, and school leader has been waiting for.”—Vicki Abeles, New York Times bestselling author of Beyond Measure

“This is an essential guide for parents and educators who want to create environments in which young people can truly learn, thrive, and find meaning.”—Richard M. Ryan, McKillop distinguished professor, Institute for Positive Psychology and Education, Australian Catholic University, co-developer of self-determination theory

“We’ve known for a long time that achievement pressure is harming our teens. The question is, what can we do about it? The Success Trap offers answers: a thorough, compassionate, step-by-step approach for parents to follow to help them understand what’s going on with their kids and how to help them through it.”—William Deresiewicz, New York Times bestselling author of Excellent Sheep

Author

Stuart Slavin, MD, MEd, a nationally recognized well-being expert, has several lenses that inform his view of the current child and adolescent mental health crisis. A board-certified pediatrician, Dr. Slavin practiced general pediatrics for seventeen years at UCLA. As a researcher, Dr. Slavin has conducted studies involving the mental health of medical students, medical residents, medical education staff, and in recent years, high school and college students. Dr. Slavin’s interest in mental health and well-being began when, as curriculum dean at Saint Louis University School of Medicine, he spearheaded efforts to improve the mental health of medical students that led to 80% reductions in rates of depression and anxiety–all while increasing performance levels. Dr. Slavin is a frequent lecturer who speaks regularly at schools and regional, national, and international education meetings. Dr. Slavin has received numerous education, teaching, and clinical awards and recognition over the course of his career, including the Alpha Omega Alpha Robert J. Glaser Distinguished Teacher Award in 2013. View titles by Stuart Slavin, MD, MEd
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